Let’s Talk about Cloth, Baby: Getting Started

May 16th, 2012 | Posted by Bryn in SF - (Comments Off on Let’s Talk about Cloth, Baby: Getting Started)

In the past few months, I have had several friends ask about cloth diapering. I have been cloth diapering off and on for about the last two years, so I’m no expert, but with all the crazy cloth diapering websites out there, it may be helpful to at least one of my 24 pregnant friends (yes! 24!) to read about cloth diapering in plain old English.

The first question to ask when thinking about cloth is:

Which type of diaper is right for me?

This is different for everyone. Cloth diapering has come a long, LONG way since our mothers cloth diapered us with diaper pins and rubber pants. Today, the options are adorable, easy, and so soft! Today I’ll talk about four main types of cloth.*

All-in-One {AIO}

 

BumGenius Elemental AIO diaper. Photo credit: http://www.clothandcarry.com

This is exactly what you think. It actually looks like a regular disposable except made of an outer layer of soft waterproof material (PUL), several inner layers of absorbent microfiber, and a layer of super soft microfleece or suedecloth (which is a polyester fabric that feels like a very fine fleece) – this inner layer is designed to keep baby’s skin dry. Instead of a sticky tab like disposables have to fasten, these use either snaps or hook & loop (like Velcro, but softer). Newer versions of AIOs are a bit easier to clean with absorbent layers that flip out but are still attached (like BumGenius Elemental, shown at right).

Pros:

  • Ease of use (as easy as disposables)
  • Quick on and off
  • Daddy and babysitter friendly
  • No stuffing or folding

Cons:

  • One of the more expensive options
  • Harder to get inner layers clean (lots and lots of rinsing required!)
  • May retain smells
  • Outer layer of PUL can “delaminate” (become less waterproof) over a long period of use (not really a huge concern for most people)
  • Long drying time

 

Pocket Diapers

 

V’s first day in cloth at two months old. This is a one-size pocket diaper snapped to the smallest setting.

Pocket diapers look like AIOs at first glance, but they are actually just the outer waterproof layer and the stay-dry inner (microfleece, suedecloth, or velour) with a pocket for stuffing absorbent material. These also use hook & loop or snaps as fasteners.

Pros:

  • Ease of use
  • Can adjust absorbancy
  • Daddy and babysitter friendly
  • Easier to get clean than AIOs because of removable absorbent layers
  • Dry fairly quickly
  • Can stuff with microfiber or natural cotton flat or prefold diapers
  • Can replace inner absorbent material when it gets worn out or retains too many smells

Cons:

  • Can be nearly as expensive as AIOs
  • Outer layer can delaminate over a long period of use

Many pocket diapers and AIOs are “one-size” meaning they are advertised to fit your baby from birth until potty training. I find that they don’t quite fit right at birth for my babies when they have those skinny chicken legs. They started fitting well at about two months through potty training.

 

Fitted Diapers

 

Kissaluvs brand fitted diaper with snaps. Photo credit: http://www.jilliansdrawers.com/

Fitted diapers are diapers that are shaped the same as disposables, except they are only the absorbent material and need a waterproof cover (see below). Many people use fitteds full time or just for overnights because they are very very absorbent.

Pros:

  • Extremely absorbent
  • Great for overnight use
  • Still pretty easy to use if they have snaps or hook & loop
  • Pretty affordable

Cons:

  • Bulky, hard to fit under jeans or tight fitting clothes
  • Slow drying time
  • Can build up smells over time
  • Require a waterproof cover

Prefold, Flat, and Contour Diapers

 

Unbleached indian prefold diapers. Photo credit: http://www.bumritediapers.com

Prefold, flat, and contour diapers all look different from one another, but they all work in mostly the same way.

Prefold diapers are usually either Indian or Chinese cotton (read about the difference between these two here). This type of diaper is also sold as a “burp cloth” and is a rectangle with more layers in the center third and fewer layers on the outer thirds. Prefold diapers must be used with a waterproof cover (see below) and can be trifolded and laid in a tight cover or pinned or “snappied” on. So what is a Snappi? See below for more information.

Flat diapers are large squares of Indian or Chinese cotton that can be folded in several different ways to achieve optimal absorbancy where your baby needs it. Because they are only one layer of cotton, they dry quickly.

Contour diapers are shaped like a disposable except they don’t have elastic or snaps or hook & loop and are also not as fluffy as fitteds. They can be laid in a tight waterproof cover or pinned or snappied on with a waterproof cover over top.

Pros:

  • All natural fibers are good for babies with sensitive skin
  • Line dry time is extremely quick for flat diapers
  • Last forever
  • Can use flats from birth until potty training
  • Most affordable option

Cons:

  • Requires a waterproof cover and pins or snappies in some cases
  • Requires some folding (flats and prefolds)
  • More difficult for those unfamiliar with cloth
  • Takes a bit longer – a bit harder for wiggly toddlers

Covers and Accessories

Diaper Covers

 

Thirsties Duo Wrap PUL diaper cover. Photo credit: http://www.clothandcarry.com

Waterproof diaper covers are necessary when using fitteds, prefolds, flats, or contour diapers. There are several very reliable brands such as Bummis, Flip, and Woolybottoms. They come in all sorts of super cute fabrics and patterns, so you can use the diaper as part of your child’s outfit. You can also reuse them throughout the day as long as they don’t get too soiled by changing the inner absorbent diaper.

Diaper covers must be waterproof, and there are several options in materials for waterproof covers. A very common material for covers is polyurethane laminated fabric (PUL) which is a soft fabric with a laminated waterproof backing. The only drawback to this type of fabric is that after years of use (maybe through one or more children) they can “delaminate” — when the waterproof backing starts to deteriorate and the diaper cover is no longer waterproof. You can prevent delamination by line drying pocket and plain diaper covers and only drying them in the dryer occasionally (sometimes the dryer can melt the polyurethane back together a little bit too).

Another material for diaper covers is wool. I know you are thinking of the scratchy wool sweater you had when you were a kid, but these soft wool covers are amazingly breathable and perfect for summer months in the heat. Many wool covers are made to put in the washing machine, but they don’t need to be washed unless they get really dirty. Read more about wool here.

Fleece is also a good option for summer months because it’s breathable. Both wool and fleece tend to be MORE waterproof than PUL because PUL just keeps the moisture in while wool and fleece absorb moisture too. I only have a few diapers with fleece, but they are overnight diapers when PUL won’t cut it.

Diaper covers can be the pull-on style (pull on like underwear) or wrap style (like disposables) that use snaps or hook & loop (aka Velcro) to fasten.

Snappi

 

 

The Snappi is THE modern day alternative to diaper pins. It’s a flexible plastic fastener with three arms that have little teeth on the end to grip the diaper. They won’t poke baby’s skin and are very easy to use. See the picture at right. Read more about the Snappi here.

Wet Bag

The wet bag is a must have for cloth diapering moms. If you are cloth diapering on the go, you will want a wet bag for your diaper bag so the soiled diaper doesn’t get everything wet and stink up your bag.

I also use a large wet bag at home. It contains the smells and is a great place to keep wet diapers between washes.

Diaper Sprayer

This is not a necessity, but I’m sure it’d be nice to have, especially as your baby gets older. This is a sprayer that attaches to your toilet and sprays a strong stream of water to get excess poo off your cloth diaper so you don’t have to swish it in the toilet. We don’t actually have one of these, but like I said, it’d be nice!

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I hope this was a good introduction to cloth diapering. It all seemed overwhelming to me at first. Once I got started, it was not as bad as it sounds. I’ll be discussing laundry routines, expenses, terms used in cloth diapering, and other frequently asked questions about cloth diapers in future posts over the next couple weeks. Stay tuned.

Moms who already cloth diaper their children: what info am I forgetting? What else should I be sure to include in future posts?

Moms thinking about cloth diapering: what questions do you have?

 *Please note: The pros and cons are all my own personal opinion or experiences. A lot of people purchase several different types of diapers and see what works best for their baby.

Make-A-List Monday: Faith in Action

May 14th, 2012 | Posted by Bryn in SF - (Comments Off on Make-A-List Monday: Faith in Action)

Today’s Make-A-List Monday isn’t actually on this site. I am a contributing writer for Catholic Mothers Online, and I wrote a list of ten practical ways to put your faith into action.

Conversation with Myself

April 18th, 2012 | Posted by Bryn in Kids - (Comments Off on Conversation with Myself)

When I’m working, I tend to talk to myself. When I worked in an office, people would constantly be asking me, “what?” because they could hear me mumbling. Now I always know when I’m talking to myself even when I don’t initially realize it because my kids answer back.

Here’s an excerpt from a recent “conversation.”

Me: Now where is that file?

TT (4 and confused): I don’t know.

Me: Okay, here it is. Let’s change this font and add an image. Now what should I put in this section?

TT: MOM! I don’t know! Leave me alone!

Me: What? Who are you talking to?

There was a study done recently by some really smart people that says I’m not crazy, I’m just more efficient. Click here to check it out.

What do you think? Do you get more done when you talk to yourself?

Make-A-List Monday: Ten Easy Ways to Waste Money

April 16th, 2012 | Posted by Bryn in SF - (Comments Off on Make-A-List Monday: Ten Easy Ways to Waste Money)

I have had a lot of people ask me how we can afford for me to stay home with our kids. My husband is a talented sheet metal installer and he works very hard, living in a small Mid-West town and raising three children, his income would be considered average at best.

So how do we do it? Out of necessity, we must be very savvy with every penny we spend and avoid wasting money on things that aren’t part of our long-term goals.

Most people spend money on things they absolutely do not need all the time. Yes, most of the time, it is easier or more fun to buy these things. If you can truly afford it, then why not? But if you are looking to save a little or want to stay home with your kids, here are some ideas to cut costs.

We avoid these to keep our monthly budget balanced:

1. Bottled Water

I read that bottled water is more acidic than regular filtered or tap water, but I don’t know any specifics. If you don’t like regular tap water, a Brita or Pur water filter is the cheap way to go. We have one, and we refill Tupperware water bottles and put them in the fridge so it has that straight-from-the-fridge coldness.

2. Coffee

And by this I mean something such as Starbucks or Dunkin’ Donuts. Sure, it takes a little extra effort, but coffee at home can be just as good with all of the creamer choices out now. We really enjoy International Delight’s Carmel Macchiato in coffee, and I make chai tea lattes with Lipton’s Spicy Chai Tea and Aldi brand french vanilla creamer.

3. Name Brand Clothes

Especially for kids. Before I buy any clothes for my kids, I ask myself, “Can they play in the mud in this?” And if the answer is “No,” it goes back on the rack. I am a big fan of garage sales and thrift shops for kids’ clothes. Unless we’re buying clothes for a special occasion, we go inexpensive.

 

4. Too Much House

Tyler and I bought our first house when I was in my senior year of college in 2006, (what were we thinking?) and when we went to get pre-approved for a mortgage loan, we were told we could afford way more than we thought we could. Thankfully, we took the advice of our parents and Dave Ramsey, and ended up with a house that we can easily afford, even on just one income. A lot of people owe more on their house than it’s worth, thanks to the popping of the housing market bubble, and it’s more important than ever to buy a house that you can easily afford.

 

5. A New Car!

A brand new car is really exciting… or so I’ve heard. Many, many people define themselves by what they drive. But what is a car, really? A large appliance to get you from point A to point B. My 2000 Toyota Sienna with 164,000+ miles does that job just as well as a 2012 Cadillac Escalade. Yes, it’d be nice to have automatic doors and a DVD player, but I personally would rather be a stay-at-home mom than be a working mom with a nice car.

6. Restaurant Food

Yes, it’s easier. It’s wonderful to eat out at a restaurant for a special date or celebration, but I have seen more and more people relying on restaurant food for regular meals and never cooking at home. I have learned to come up with easy meals at home when I don’t feel like cooking (or run out of time) – including Hamburger Helper, frozen pizza, Stouffer’s Lasagna, frozen meatballs (which seem to make spaghetti night slightly fancier), and Crock Pot meals. Stay tuned, I’ll be posting a few of my easy recipes in the next few weeks.

7. Cable TV

Many see this as a necessity, but is it really? We do have basic cable at our house, which runs about $14 per month, but that’s only because we get a discount because we have our internet with the same company. With just a converter box, we can receive CBS, NBC, ABC, FOX, several PBS stations, and our local channels. TV is just a form of entertainment, and if you watch less of it, think how many productive things you could get done.

 

8. A Land Line Telephone

The use of the land line is dying now that we are in the smart phone age. I admit, we actually have a land line because my hubby didn’t have a cell phone for several years, and now it’s hard to give up the number. However, I have heard that it’s possible to port a land line number to a cell phone. If anyone has any additional information, let me know and I’ll post it here.

 

 

Ugly kitchen, cute baby. This is Peach when she was about a year old. Notice the orange-y colored cabinets, the mint green inside, and the lovely brown and light brown vinyl.

9. Mistaking ‘Wants’ for ‘Needs’

We need want a new kitchen. We have lived in our house, with our hideous kitchen, for over six years, and we are still hoping to get it done sometime in the next year. Is our kitchen ugly? Yes. But is it functional and clean? Yes. A total kitchen remodel is something we are planning on in the next year, but it is not something we “need”.

 

10. Not Having a Written Budget

This may be the biggest one. We went for years never really having any idea where our money went each month. With a written budget, you can plan exactly where all of your money will go before the month even gets started. That way there’s no guilt when buying anything because you already know you can afford it.

 

Bonus #11. Financing instead of Saving

This goes right along with having a written budget. For our new kitchen, are we going to get a Home Depot credit card at 0% interest for however many months? No. We are starting a sinking fund, where we put a set amount money away every month to save for it. We will treat it just like a bill so that we can reach our financial and home remodeling goals.

 

These are just a few ways our family saves money so I can stay at home with our young children. What are some other good ways you save money to accomplish your goals?

Funny Friday – The Grammar Nerd

April 13th, 2012 | Posted by Bryn in Funny Friday - (Comments Off on Funny Friday – The Grammar Nerd)

Yes, that’s me. I have been known lovingly as a grammar nerd, a grammar cop, and even the grammar nazi by my honey. I get it, it’s difficult to type everything out in texts or even from your phone to Facebook, but when a reputable news source starts making grammatical errors, I start getting “grinchy”. And sure, I’m not perfect, but I appreciate when basic grammatical rules are followed. If you ever find any basic errors on this website, please feel free to correct me!

A short lesson:

it’s = it is
its = possessive form of “it” (referring to something that belongs to “it”)

there = refers to location (There it is!)
they’re = they are
their = possessive form of they (belonging to them)

your = possessive form of you (belonging to you)
you’re = you are

two = the number 2
to = preposition used before a noun or verb as an infinitive (We are going to the store. We are going to leave now.)
too = also (I love you, too.)

who’s = who is
whose = possessive form of who/whom

These are the few that were at the top of my mind today. Which bother you the most?

To relieve some stress from my mind, here are a few graphics from someecards and one from Piccsy.

Does bad grammar bother you? Which grammatical errors bug you the most?

Good Friday – What Love Really Means

April 6th, 2012 | Posted by Bryn in Faith - (Comments Off on Good Friday – What Love Really Means)

Today is Good Friday, the day all Christians commemorate the passion and death of our Lord, Jesus Christ. What He did on the cross was THE ultimate act of love, so let us remember today and always that we are NOTHING without Him. He was perfect in every way, never having sinned even once, and He willingly allowed Himself to be nailed to the cross for your sins, for my sins, for the sins of the entire world, past, present, and future. That’s what Love really means.

Lord, You are all that is good, our Creator, and our Redeemer. We are sorry for the sins we have committed that nailed You to the cross. Words cannot express the gratitude we have for Your sacrifice. Thank you, Lord Jesus. Please help us to always appreciate the gift of Your grace, and keep us close to You always. Amen.

Here’s a free printable to help us remember what Love really is.

Click on the image to enlarge. This is for personal use only. Please don’t crop out the website at the bottom.

Thank you, and have a blessed Good Friday.

The Saturday Spruce-Up – Back Porch Spring Cleaning

March 31st, 2012 | Posted by Bryn in The Saturday Spruce-Up - (Comments Off on The Saturday Spruce-Up – Back Porch Spring Cleaning)

All winter, every winter, my unused back porch turns into a catch-all room, a storage room, gathering dust and odds and ends including old lamps, stuff for Salvation Army, and who knows what else? Yesterday I spent naptime moving furniture and stuff, vacuuming, scrubbing and DE-CLUTTERING. It feels so good to have my cute little porch back.

Here’s the shameful before picture with a winter’s worth of junk:

Yikes! That's embarrassing... and this is the entrance we and guests use every time.

The view from the back door. Layers of dust and junk. I do like the bamboo shades though.

I included this one because you can really see the dust build-up under the bench. It's awful. Why am I posting these on the internet?! What is wrong with me?!

Okay, so here are the after pictures that (somewhat) redeem me as a wife, mother, and human being.

Aaaah. Much better. It's all scrubbed, washed, vacuumed. Much, much better.

This is a doll clothes armoire I had when I was a little girl. I love it as an end table!

No more dust under that bench!

Won’t my mommy be so proud of me?

Have a great weekend!

Funny Friday – Introducing Average Dan

March 30th, 2012 | Posted by Bryn in Funny Friday - (Comments Off on Funny Friday – Introducing Average Dan)

My extremely entertaining brother-in-law is “Average Dan” on Fox 23 in Tulsa, Oklahoma. A few months ago, he shot a series of promotional videos, some of which I’ve included here. Be sure to check him out on Fox 23 and click here to read his reviews of above average businesses in the Tulsa area.

The maniacs and I spent at least a half hour the other day watching the ten second commercials over and over and over. And laughing.

The five second rule should not be questioned. You can tell its a rule. How? Because of the way it is. Deal with it.

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Sneezing is a serious health condition. Do it carefully and responsibly.

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On Average, people laugh 17 times a day. In order to reach my daily laugh quota, sometimes I have to find a loophole, so I made this video for those days when I need a pinch-hitter and don’t feel like chuckling one bit.

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Make-A-List Monday – Quotable Kids

March 26th, 2012 | Posted by Bryn in Kids | Make-A-List Monday - (Comments Off on Make-A-List Monday – Quotable Kids)

Our three maniacs, from left to right, TT(4 1/2), Vanilla(15 mo.), and Peach(2 1/2). And yes, the two big kids crawl themselves into Vanilla's crib almost every morning and all three jump... Don't judge me.

On my other, extremely neglected blog, I attempted to keep track of funny or insightful things my kids said because they are constantly coming up with new gems. However, I often hear them say something, laugh about it and tell their dad, then forget about it. Today is redemption for my other blog, Out of the Mouths of Maniacs.

Here are some glimpses from that website as well as some new stuff the maniacs have been telling me lately.

1. After we returned home from vacation – TT: Mom, I just want you to be home for one day then go on vacation again.

2. Dad: What do you want to be when you grow up, buddy?
TT (age 4): What do I want to be when I grow up? Hmmmm…. A husband!

3.  Peach, our two and a half year old, has several nicknames for her little sister, and we don’t know where any of them came from. They are: Cakes, Quakes, and Little You-ee-high.

4. Lately, our baby, who is now 15 months old, has been saying, “Hi Peach!” and “Hi Sase!” (talking to her brother).

5. TT (age 4): Mom, you know how I can fly like Superman?
Me: How?
TT: I can get a cape on my back and a stick on my crotch and fly away!
Me: A stick on your WHAT?
TT: On my crotch. You know, like Harry Potter.

6. Peach (age 2, after painting her toenails hot pink): Mom, can I take my pink toes to bed with me?

7. Then there’s this conversation between a plastic goat and a plastic horse (via my two-year-old):
Goat: I love you.
Horse: Well, I love you too. Let’s run away from the hyheenas!

8. TT: That grape was disgusting. It tasted like yard.
Me: How do you know what “yard” tastes like?
Crickets, crickets.

9. As I’m wiping my four-year-old’s butt – TT: Mommy, I think you are just gorgeous!

10. Peach: I can do whatever I want!
TT: (in a very calm tone) No, you cannot do whatever you want. You are a child.

Which is your favorite? What are some awesome things your kids have said lately (or ever)?

Pledge to Wear Black on Fridays to End Abortion in America

March 25th, 2012 | Posted by Bryn in Faith | Kids - (Comments Off on Pledge to Wear Black on Fridays to End Abortion in America)

AbortionBlackout.com is turning into a movement in the United States. Their short video (click below to view) explains simple statistics regarding abortions. It’s heartbreaking to realize how many children we’ve lost to abortion just in the last 30+ years.

Even if you feel you can’t participate in the Abortion Blackout each Friday, please pray for the children lost to abortion, their mothers and fathers who are probably suffering, and the healthcare professionals that they may have a change of heart.

Thank you Father Daren for bringing this movement to my attention. Feel free to reblog, share on Facebook, Pin It, Tweet about it, just spread the news about the Abortion Blackout.